Youth and Teen Workshops / Parents To Coaches Workshops For Counselors and Teachers / Team Workshops
Parent One-on-One Coaching
Path Forward offers direct coaching for parents that want to work personally with their youth. This program is similar to the On-on-One coaching we offer for the youth themselves but is focused on helping parents coach their their youth on their unique life purpose, vision and goals. Also, perhaps most important is that the parents learn to coach their youth is task completion and time management. For a description of the general process of coaching One-on-One please refer to How Pro-active Coaching Works.
Depending upon the situation, coaching with parents may not focus so much on the Path Forward Circle For Success but on defining and enacting goals directly related to coaching their young people. For example, a particular youth maybe having difficulty among other things with:
managing their emotions
deciding on what they want to do with their live
behaving difficulties with friends or family members
becoming and staying motivated
being moderately depressed or anxious
underachieving in school or work
time management and so on
Path Forward assists parents to develop powerful language and an attitude that leads to greater ability to assist their youth in these and other areas of concern. Because we at Path Forward recognize that all youth are different parent coaching may further entail deciding upon whether their child is more facing more difficult psychological and emotional problems and required more in depth psychotherapy prior to beginning more direct coaching per se.
Path Forward coaching for parents themselves may focus issues parents are facing within themselves that are getting in the way of assisting their child age appropriately. In that youth, at times, can be trying "parent"coaching can focus on many possible issues:
gain understanding about their own psychological and emotional issues that arise in the context of interacting with their child***
help parents be less reactive to difficult behavior
get clear about realistic expectations
manage their own emotions
maintain workable boundaries
establish age appropriate limits
stay consistent in their approach
maintain a coaching attitude that turns the focus on their interactions with their child on what they want and need rather than what the parents want
face their own (parents) anxieties about trusting in the wisdom that lies with the young adult or late teen
*** In a lecture frequently offered by Dr. Scott Nelson to parents and teachers about human attachment and the field of interpersonal neurobiology, he stresses that modern research has shown that parents literally change their children's brain chemistry and growth via subtle and intense behaviors. Essentially, parent's behavior either stimulates what are called the happy chemicals in the child's brain such as dopamine, epinephrine and oxytocin, which in turn stimulate cell growth and brain interconnections. At the same time threatening or stress inducing behavior stimulates negative chemicals leading to cell and interconnection damage. With this in mind Dr. Scott Nelson emphasizes that one of the most important things parents can do for their children is to come to understand and modify their own psychology and emotions so that the respond to their children based on what the children need rather than their own fears, anxieties and emotional distortions that arise out of their own life history.